Is it an American thing, a Californian thing, a generational thing? When did we become obsessed with getting more, having more, wanting MORE!? Bigger houses, bigger cars, expensive jeans, the perfect highlights, the ‘best’ schools, the most fab kiddos, etc, etc, etc….. It’s exhausting!!! These damn Joneses and keeping up with them is getting OUT OF CONTROL!!!
Who the hell are the Joneses? My little sister just became a Jones =), but that’s not what I’m talking about. Though some days her child free life does look quite appealing. In recent weeks she could be found in Mexico, at a NBA Finals game, a Dodger game, a party….oh, to be her!!! But now I’m getting sidetracked.
Let me tell you something about the Jones family. They have the house/car/looks/kids that you think would make you happy. You know what happens when they go to their bosses/family’s/friend’s house? They see things that they wish they had. That’s right! There’s always a bigger, better Jones family. I’ve seen it with people I know. I go to their house & wish I lived in something like theirs…something my entire house could fit into the living room of. But guess what? They wish they lived in a better neighborhood, had a car like their neighbor, or a better job. When does ‘more’ stop and ‘just right’ begin? I’m here to tell you the answer is NEVER!!! Inside most households its just the same shit, different day.
You know what wanting more has given us? LESS!!! Less time with our families, less fulfilling relationships, less growth, and ultimately, less happiness. Now don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with wanting more from your LIFE, but more/better stuff is not going to get you there. In fact, often times it is the ‘stuff’ that impedes us from achieving the life we really want. It’s never enough, so you never stop wanting. And more often than not, the accumulation of more coincides with the accumulation of debt and in the end MORE stress & LESS happiness.
I’m stepping off this crazy train. Ok, to be honest, I have to. After losing my job, we are learning quickly how to live with way less money. But the biggest surprise of this whole situation is that I am happier learning to live on less. The joy of a fancy car can’t compete with the joy of no payment! I love dinners at home. They are healthier, cost less and are so much less stressful than getting a 3 year old to behave in a restaurant. And less “stuff” means less waste & less damage to our Earth.
I am going to actively resist the urge of more. The best way I can think to help me is by replacing the typical “more” with things that I truly want more of and focus on those.
My New More List:
- Family time
- Finacial freedom (less debt!)
- Time with friends
- Organic/environmentally friendly solutions that are affordable!
What’s your ‘more’ list?